The words “cancer” and “grief” often go hand in hand, just as feelings and emotions can evoke a multitude of reactions. Everyone copes with a cancer diagnosis in their own way, and the same can be said for how someone experiences grief. What you grieve for is as varied as how you think and feel. Whether it’s grieving for the loss of your body as it used to be, things you used to be able to do, loss of the ability to plan due to treatment, or loss of being able to identify with what used to be familiar, some of the feelings associated with loss can include sadness, loneliness, anger, fear and guilt.
It is important to give yourself permission to grieve in a way that feels right for you. It might be difficult to let others in or ask for support, especially if you are more familiar with giving rather than receiving help. Allowing yourself time to adjust to change is a necessary component of grieving. Identifying what you need can take time and often changes as your circumstances change. Trying not to rush through what you are feeling and simplifying things can be helpful in sorting through the process. By doing that, it is a step toward caring for yourself and managing the emotions that come with what you are feeling.
Consider this your permission to take time for yourself today!
~ Shannon, Buddy Kemp Cancer Support Center